Parents do the best they can with the resources that they have.
This being said, too many parents know that they need to apply consequences, but have no clue how to do it. When parents and children come to see me I regularly hear, “we’ve taken everything away… it still isn’t getting better… we don’t know what to do.”
Taking away all life’s pleasure doesn’t generally make people want to work harder. It makes them angry. You need to apply reasonable consequences. I prefer teaching children to earn things rather than taking away when they mess up.
Look for a more in-depth explanation and “how-to” application in my upcoming parenting program.
Dr John
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